Supporting a Friend in Times of Loss: Concrete Ways to Offer Help

When a loved one passes away, those left behind often face a whirlwind of emotions and tasks. As friends, we naturally want to help, but all too often, we find ourselves saying, “Let me know how I can help.” While well-intentioned, this phrase places the burden on the grieving individual to identify and ask for assistance, which can be overwhelming during such a difficult time.

Instead, consider making a specific offer. Rather than asking, suggest something tangible: “Can I pick up your son from soccer practice today?” or “Would it help if I delivered some groceries for you this week?” These concrete gestures not only show that you care but also remove the pressure from the grieving person to come up with ways you can help.

One meaningful way to provide comfort is through what some refer to as “Grief Groceries.” This involves delivering a selection of comfort foods or ready-to-eat meals that can offer a moment of solace during a challenging time. This act not only ensures that your friend has nourishing meals but also communicates that they are in your thoughts. Comfort foods like soups, fresh bread, or a favorite dish can provide a sense of warmth and care.

When offering support, think about the daily tasks that might be overwhelming for someone in mourning—transportation, meal preparation, household chores, or simply sitting with them in silence. These small, thoughtful actions can make a significant difference.

At Jewish Pavilion Senior Services and the Orlando Senior Help Desk, we recognize the importance of community support during times of loss. It’s not just about offering help; it’s about offering the right kind of help. By stepping up with concrete offers, we can ease the burden on our friends and help them navigate their grief with the knowledge that they are not alone.

In these moments, your actions can speak louder than words, offering the comfort and support that your friend truly needs.